My twins struggle in school. The one qualifies for an IEP and gets extra help. The other one, doesn't qualify. He didn't tie his shoes until he was 9 but they weren't worried about that. Then his hand writting and pencil grap is awlful. I have always pointed this out to teachers. They weren't worried about that either. He did the PT, OT as a baby until he was 3. At a certain age your pencil grip is what it is, it won't change and now they saying its BAD.
Well, he smart as a whip. But has a hard time putting in on paper. Its hard for him to even copy something off the overhead projector. But you can ask him something, and he can answer you verbally. He came into from school today where he handed me a form, where he nees to take an ESS course in writing because he received a NOVICE score on his portfolio. Although, he had honor roll. I asked them to explain that to me. I called the Counselor and asked her about this, then I learned that the teachers do not grade them, there are two people who do ???? Who are these people I would like to know. I asked the Counselor, how is going to learn in 9 days what he couldn't do in 36 weeks, she didn't have an answer to that. I asked Jacob if it was typed or written in his hand writting and he said it was in his writing, that explains alot....they probably couldn't read it and just wrote novice on it. Then he said once he typed it on the computer and couldn't get it to print and never got that.
Jacob is a loaner, doesn't ask for help. I swear he has autistic tendecies but the board of education doesn't see it. He has a different walk/stride than most kids...there's alot of things that he's not like other kids....but nobody listens to me. They can only go by the system guidelines. Sometimes, at a snap of a finger gets angry or small things. I'm so upset at the moment and angry too, I feel as if I could climb a wall with my bare hands.
This has played on my mind for sometime having him evaluted for delays and such, and for autistic tendencies, asberger syndrome ....etc. My mom says he won't be able to get insurance if they label him with something. I've always kind of listened to her. I'm not now, he's 14 and maybe he's at the age level that he'll never get past. Who knows, maybe his premie problems are just showing up. He doesn't have many friends, and the one he does is only 10 years old and gets alot great with him, like they're on the same level.
I explained to my mom, if he needs help or needs to be labeled with something now is the time to do it. He's 14 and would only have until he's 18 to be on our insurance. She started her spill again, I said so what....we'll deal with it!
I'm just so upset and frustrated at the same time, and I've got to head off to work with swollen eyes from crying. Can't seem to pull myself together tonight.
Lo,
