This was my PM to Jerry concerning the forum and he has asked me to post the letter. Although I know nothing here will be that drastic. Please keep in mind that the words/actions can have consequences sometimes and once things are done sometimes they cannot be undone.... Be kind....
Hey there. I hope this is okay to offering some suggestions.. I am just so worried the site will go down.
I am manager of a support channel for folks with epilepsy, which my daughter has. We are a "live" chat group on a irc server. At one time we had 100's of members and it got very difficult. So many opinions, medicines, drs, you know how that goes. And many things said in the rush of typing live chat dont come out like they should coupled with tons of "physcological" problems steming from the epilepsy.
Our group is one of the longest lasting ones around and we bascially have a few moderators, me and the assitant manager try to make our calls according to what the mods want but basically we dont make to many calls. We do have a list of rules that is posted everytime they join the channel. Most follow them but ya always got ones that dont. I think our great success comes from not doing much of anything. People have just got to learn to read over what they dont like. You lose a few along the way no doubt but we made a call one time that we will both live with foreover. We listened to a great many on the channel wantin to get rid of a particular boy that had some pretty big problems, as alot with epilepsy do. We begged them just ignore him he cant help what he does. I had met him and his drs a few times. Beside my better judgement, we did end up banning the guy and I got a call from him sister with a link to his obiturary in the newpaper, he committed suicide. We will never know if our group could have helped him but we will always blame ourselves on that call. anyway.. I am rambling with things that arent gonna happen on this forum but jsut wanted to share our experience with you.
Please let me know if there is anythign I can do. and I can make donations periodically, not as much as I would like, but if that would help.
Thank you jerry for all your work.