First off, let me say that this is a great place with such wonderful, caring people and I can't wait till Deb comes back and reads the messages, she will be so touched.
I've had a few people ask me for Debbie's address to send cards, etc., but I don't really want to give out her address nor would I want to post it here on the forum. I'm trying to get it set up so that any cards and/or gifts or donations could go to one place and then forwarded to her. I or someone else will let you know when this happens and the specifics.
Bill and Debbie had discussed funerals and he didn't want a service but he did want to be cremated and his remains will be overlooking a lake they fished at that he loved the most. This way, she could look up and talk to him while she's fishing. That will be done and a BBQ and fishing at the lake for the service. Not really somewhere where flowers could be sent and that's not what he wanted.
She is doing as well as can be expected, has her good moments and bad and the house is still full of family and Raina, her daughter is still there. There was a wonderful chaplain at the hospital with whom she talked to and she is not angry at G-d anymore, though I think she's still angry at Bill for leaving her. The healing process will take a long time but already some things have transpired and touched Debbie since his death, so who knows what the future holds for her and the continuing chapter of her and Bill. Don't believe in closing books, only continuing the chapters.
Will talk to her again today and keep you updated.