Author Topic: lost... trying to figure it out (Read 8407 times)

Jerry · « **Reply #60 on:** July 22, 2009, 04:51:35 PM »

If there is anyway you can come to Annette's do it. You will have friends.

Jerry

I did PM you. I am 90 miles away, you can if you wish drive with us the last 60 miles

PondmaninAL · « **Reply #61 on:** July 22, 2009, 05:14:44 PM »

Michelle, his stuff is still in your house? Not on the front porch or in the yard?

Bullfrog · « **Reply #62 on:** July 23, 2009, 04:48:09 AM »

Let's see... 3 pages of text. (All caring responses), 738 views and 61 replies in support of you on this thread should tell you something. You are not the demon here and he lost the best thing that ever will happen to him

We all step into a pile every now and then, it just comes with walking. Girl, wipe his shit off of your shoes like the crap that it is. Take a deep breath, hold your head up and let him know in no uncertain terms that this is his loss. Wish him well but be indifferent, glad that he showed his true colors now, not three kids later.

This world is chock full of really screwed up people and they will bring you down if they capture you in their own weird web. They will torture your soul with their own shortcomings but you can't let them bring you down to their level. This is a disturbing video but it has a really profound message. Watch the perversions of particular people, watch her criticcize herself in the mirror but most of all, watch her rip the pages out and throw them into the fire. You need to do this. Don't let this bastard bring you down.

Take 4 minutes and listen to the words. Don't let him bring you down. You are beautiful, in every single way, words can't bring you down.61 goodhearted people can't be wrong. Listen to Christina for a bit, click here...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KNthqC2fsVw

Bullfrog · « **Reply #63 on:** July 24, 2009, 04:41:11 AM »

One more suggestion. When he wants to come and get his things, do it on your terms. Let him know that you are busy and find out when he is coming. You know what is his, have it boxed up and on the porch. If furniture is involved, get some help and place it there as well. Leave, don't be there. Do not allow him to pluck your heart strings. This will also give him the message that you are not at his beck and call and have moved on with your life. Take control.

It may seem hard but believe me, this is not the hardest thing that this life will throw at you before you are as old as I am, this will someday look petty.

Joyce · « **Reply #64 on:** July 24, 2009, 05:03:16 AM »

Also, BEFORE he picks up his belongings...have the locks changed.

There is another song by Christina that was my theme song through cancer...and even now.
Can be yours now too...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xB7pQpNx-F4
Watch and listen, to the very end...every word.

SueSTx · « **Reply #65 on:** July 24, 2009, 07:31:52 AM »

I think I've seen this on Judge Judy a time or two.

Mutual property...

Moving your things out and leaving his things there might be the easiest solution.

lorraine1960 · « **Reply #66 on:** July 24, 2009, 08:22:09 AM »

get your things out first and leave his....the way he sounds she will come with him and that will be a situation in itself....just get your things and move on,let him worry about his stuff,what is mutual stuff??he walked away.possession is 9/10's of the law...its yours now...lorraine

Rad Michelle · « **Reply #67 on:** July 24, 2009, 03:26:01 PM »

Ok. Now I'm confused. Because I haven't spoken to him in like 2 weeks and he came by today because he had heard my truck was gettin repo'd and had gone to the bank to pay it.. Said he's gunna come by in a week in get his stuff.. Chatted a bit. Very civil. I was indifferent. Told him I'd pay him back next week and thanked him for the gesture. He told me any of his stuff I could get money out to sell con craigslist cuz he won't be needing it... Sigh. Guys are confusing. But I'm gunna sell his stuff so we don't have to deal w mving it and I can use the money to pay back old bills of his and mine that I know I won't be getting money for... I dunno guys I don't understand why he bothered I mean I know he cares about me but why not just walk out he was already out the door ya know

HOWELL · « **Reply #68 on:** July 24, 2009, 07:33:41 PM »

Quote from: Rad Michelle on July 24, 2009, 03:26:01 PM

Ok. Now I'm confused. Because I haven't spoken to him in like 2 weeks and he came by today because he had heard my truck was gettin repo'd and had gone to the bank to pay it.. Said he's gunna come by in a week in get his stuff.. Chatted a bit. Very civil. I was indifferent. Told him I'd pay him back next week and thanked him for the gesture. He told me any of his stuff I could get money out to sell con craigslist cuz he won't be needing it... Sigh. Guys are confusing. But I'm gunna sell his stuff so we don't have to deal w mving it and I can use the money to pay back old bills of his and mine that I know I won't be getting money for... I dunno guys I don't understand why he bothered I mean I know he cares about me but why not just walk out he was already out the door ya know

That is called guilt....

Esther · « **Reply #69 on:** July 24, 2009, 07:41:38 PM »

I thought the same thing Howell. He's such a jerk that he doesn't even realize OR CARE it could hurt you to have him talk to you after what he's done to you.... Sorry.

jw · « **Reply #70 on:** July 25, 2009, 04:11:44 PM »

Yep, guilty, guilty, guilty and I hope it eats at him forever! He's made a big mistake and now he will live with it forever. He doesn't deserve you. Let him make this stupid move w/ this new young girl and just sit back and watch.........he will be trying to come back to you someday and don't you be there as that would be no life for you. He will do it again to the next and the next and the next one! Hope you can get to the pond party............I wish I could be there but alas I will have to be one of those there in spirit.............I would have brought a double decker rich chocolate cake w/ cookie dough ice cream on the side

Joyce · « **Reply #71 on:** July 25, 2009, 04:19:23 PM »

Michelle, don't mean to be rude, just blunt.
Any thought or belief that he has any feelings for you or 'cares' is not healthy.

Please stop thinking that he cares for you, in any way, and move on.

Howell is right on the mark, if he feels anything at all, it's guilt.

No one who 'cares' about another pulls a stunt like this.

-Greg- · « **Reply #72 on:** July 25, 2009, 09:11:12 PM »

Michelle, some great advice here! My two cents:

Go outside, get down on your knees, look up at the sky, and shout " Thank you (insert your version of higher power here)" for saving me from the train wreck that could have been", then shout it out again louder!

The right person for you will treat you like a queen, always! Will respect you like you deserve, and will love you for who you are!!!

As everyone has said, clean break, no contact with mom, and move on!

Go out and treat yourself to whatever it is that you wouldn't do any other time (spa, massage, shopping, ice cream, out with friends, whatever), and enjoy the rest of your life, this was just a bump in the road!

Greg

-Greg- · « **Reply #73 on:** July 25, 2009, 11:29:53 PM »

Michelle, one more thing: Probably way before your time, but back in my day (the 80's) there were plenty of ballads along the same lines of what you are going through (seems like everyone was going through something similar back then if I remember right) here are the lyrics from one of my favorites...

We both lie silently still
In the dead of the night
Although we both lie close together
We feel miles apart inside

Was it something I said or something I did
Did my words not come out right
Though I tried not to hurt you
Though I tried
But I guess thats why they say

Chorus:
Every rose has its thorn
Just like every night has its dawn
Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song
Every rose has its thorn

Yeah it does

I listen to our favorite song
Playing on the radio
Hear the dj say loves a game of easy come and
Easy go
But I wonder does he know
Has he ever felt like this
And I know that youd be here right now
If I could have let you know somehow
I guess

Chorus

Though its been a while now
I can still feel so much pain
Like a knife that cuts you the wound heals
But the scar, that scar remains

Solo

I know I could have saved a love that night
If Id known what to say
Instead of makin love
We both made our separate ways

But now I hear you found somebody new
And that I never meant that much to you
To hear that tears me up inside
And to see you cuts me like a knife
I guess every rose has it thorn....

Jerry · « **Reply #74 on:** July 26, 2009, 09:43:47 AM »

Greg, that was beautiful!

Esther · « **Reply #75 on:** July 26, 2009, 02:12:39 PM »

Michelle, I hope you feel our arms around you and our thoughts and good wishes always with you, holding you up and keeping you headed in the right directon.

JimMcD in SVAZ · « **Reply #76 on:** July 26, 2009, 04:02:34 PM »

Michelle,

The right guy for you will:

Rad Michelle · « **Reply #77 on:** July 29, 2009, 02:30:35 PM »

What in the hell! Hahahaha he f**king (excuse my language) brought his fiance to my house today to pick up our jetskiis to use for the weekend. Never in a million years could I believe that he'd have that kind of idiotic nerve to do that.

What kind of a f..n person does that!?

You will all be excited to know that I was very calm about it, was polite, indifferent about the whole thing, though I had outragously shakey hands, I was decent about it. And I feel better knowing that I'm the bigger person in the situation and I hope he gets the hell outa my life quicker so I can sever the ties and never looks back. I feel foolish for thinkin he was something.

mascot · « **Reply #78 on:** July 29, 2009, 02:44:25 PM »

Yeah, he showed his true colors there. That's low class...

Jerry · « **Reply #79 on:** July 29, 2009, 03:13:57 PM »

NO CLASS!
Michelle , you did the right thing.

Rad Michelle · « **Reply #80 on:** July 29, 2009, 06:14:26 PM »

man so isnt there a second pond party in a month or 2?? i hope to start saving funds to head down that way

Jerry · « **Reply #81 on:** July 29, 2009, 06:23:20 PM »

Yes, at my home, a mere 90 minutes from you. Virtually a straight shot.
Late Sept. will be cool.

We pray.

Joyce · « **Reply #82 on:** July 29, 2009, 06:53:46 PM »

I'm so proud of you Michelle!